THE 30 GAY CURE

Are you finally ready to stop the never ending cycle of masturbating to the more masculine, more muscular attributes of other males you wished you had in yourself. And when it becomes an obsession, you end up calling it your 'lifestyle'??

Here are the 3 Basic Steps to help you get your life back, starting in Only 30 Days.


1. STOP MASTURBATING:

Most males who 'think' they were always sexually attracted to other males, don't realize following basic biological facts:

- Males have no sexual 'attraction' until puberty.

- All males are 'attracted' to other male 'attributes' as children that they wished they had, and want when they grow up.

- At puberty, when the male starts to masturbate to the 'admired' male attributes, he creates a manual sexual 'bond' with those attributes.

- That manual sexual 'bond' must be maintained by a constant stream of porn(admired male attributes of masculinity, body image and penis size)

- Avoid your previous masturbation buddies during this time also. Very much like a drug addict must avoid other users if he wants to quit.

Solution: All males are naturally sexually attracted to females, no matter how deep it's overshadowed by his masturbation to admired male attributes. If you need to masturbation, masturbate to an admired female image.

- Better yet, have sex with females, your girlfriend or wife if you want to have sex.


2. NO PORN:

You must avoid all Porn in magazines, on the web, gay web sites, in video.

- Images of male 'attributes' you admire serve to lower your own self esteem about your masculinity, body image and penis size.

- Whether it's male/female porn or same gender porn. The negative impact on the male is the same.

- Trying to 'compare' and 'compete' with porn stars only sets an unrealistic expectation of himself, and lowers his self esteem.

- Porn is also 'required' to maintain your manual sexual 'bond' with the admired male attributes.

Solution: Focus on other aspects of your life such as your hobbies and sports. If you don't have any hobbies, try new things, since porn and masturbation may have taken away the time you would have had for developing hobbies.


3. NO GYM:

You must avoid the gym which is only a 'tool' that enables males to continue his obsession for the body image used for masturbation.

- Your 'attraction' for another male is only because you want his body image. However, no matter how much you try to create that body image in yourself, there will always be another body image you admire more. So this cycle will never end.

- The gyms know this. Have you asked yourself why you must continue any 'gym' workout every 3 days or you loose all of the benefit??

- It's never about wellness, only a body image obsession, with becomes Body Dysmorphic Disorder.

Solution: Take up martial arts which is focused on overall wellness, instead of a body image obsession. Learn to develop aspects of yourself so that you won't feel the need to seek an 'upgrade' in another male, which you can never have.


OUTCOME:

What you will find is that the less porn you view, the less time you spend in a gym, and the less you masturbate to the attributes of other males, the less you find yourself 'attracted' to those attributes.

WHY?
This happens because you are beginning to transfer the 'habits' tied to your obsession with the attributes of other males, to 'habits' relating to activities you enjoy on a daily basis.

- You begin to understand that your natural organic sexuality should not require the maintenance via masturbation and porn.

- Your self esteem begins to come back into balance, as you are no longer 'measuring' yourself physically and sexually against other males with body image obsessions, or porn stars hired for the purpose of entertainment.

- You are able to regain your self respect that you had to fake for so long by hiding under the gay umbrella, pretending that your actions were OK and the problem was with everyone else.

- You no longer need to lie to your family, your girlfriend or your wife about masturbating with other males.

- You no longer need to feel guilty about 'thinking' about masturbating with other males, and cheating on your girlfriend or wife.


GIVE IT A TRY!

After you go through being angry that someone pointed out the obvious truth that you have been ignoring, or after you are done laughing at once again, someone is offering a cure for how you think you were born..........give it a try.

- If you fall off the wagon, start over from day 1. You must go 30 days in a row following each of the three steps.


Side Effects:
There are a few side effects of this program.

1. Your friends committed to 'being gay' will resent you, because they will see you as 'rejecting' them, since you are not choosing to be one of them. So avoid telling them you are testing.

2. Your interests will change from constant conversations about 'being' gay, 'gay' things, 'gay' lifestyles, 'gay' failed relationship attempts, and who's gay in the media to what you want out of life, and your interests not associated with sex and sexuality.

3. You will begin to see your life options become more expanded. The 'restriction' based on being 'committed' to a lifestyle based on homosexual sexual activity has less appeal.

4. You become free to make friends with males and females based on common interest and not based only on sexuality.

5. You are now able to look a potential mates not only based on 'gender', or what you wished you were, but based on the individual.

6. Your relationship or marriage with your wife becomes less stressful because you no longer have a big secret to hide..

7. Your marriage becomes stronger because you are no longer deceiving your wife in mind or actions.

Give yourself a chance. It won't cost you anything.

Go ahead...see what happens...

ARE YOU SEXUALLY ORGANIC?

Do you really know what your Organic Sexual Attraction really is?

Most males have no understanding of the difference between 'sexual attraction' and basic 'attraction'. Males are 'attracted' to anything they desire for themselves. The huge flat panel TV, the nice stereo system, the fast car, feminine female body, flashy clothing, big homes, Masculinity and a more muscular and stronger male body.

None of these items/attributes naturally have any sexual attraction for him. It's only when he begins to 'masturbate' to the admired images does he create a manual sexual 'bond' with those 'images.

The human and animal male sexual attraction for females is chemical in nature. The physical body is only an 'attraction' just like anything else, but it's the chemical reaction that creates the sexual attraction for females. The later sexual bond he creates with the female body only occurs when the physical body attraction is bonded with the very powerful pleasure of masturbation and orgasm.

However, males who feel attracted to other male 'attributes' are a bit different. There is no chemical reaction or connection with the other male. But it's ONLY a manual bond created through masturbating to the 'admired' male attributes. For many males, this starts at puberty.

This is why most males will always be sexually attracted to females, but will feel 'more' sexually attracted to males with 'admired' attributes of masculinity and muscular body image.

WHY IS THIS HAPPENING?

Because since puberty, he has not been able to establish his natural and organic sexuality. Through masturbation, he has consistently distorted his sexual attraction with masturbation to 'admired' male attributes he wished he had in himself.

The longer he masturbates to those admired attributes, the stronger the 'bond' he will create for those male attributes, and the more distorted his natural chemical sexual attraction will be for females.

The required use of all types of porn, naked male admired images, and the gym where over 90% of the males there are suffering from the same sexual dysfunction. Obsessed with trying to obtain the more masculine body image of another male in the gym, a magazine or on TV.

They go home and masturbation to their pumped up body image before it deflates, thinking they are attracted to other males. If they are unsuccessful in building their body into the admired image, they will naked male images and porn to masturbate to.

The reality is that they have only created a sexual bond with the male 'attributes' they admire of other males, that they wished they had in themselves.

Many males have been masturbating exclusively to admired male attributes all their lives and have never given himself an opportunity to experience his Organic Sexuality.

Most of these males end up choosing to 'be' gay and create a life and lifestyle based on a never ending cycle of porn and masturbation.

It takes daily maintenance to maintain a sexual bond with admired attributes. If that was not the case, there would be no need to masturbate on a daily basis and use props, or magazines and videos to become aroused.

IS THIS YOU?

Test yourself:
- Try to stop masturbating for 10 -20 - 30 days.
- Stay away from all porn on TV, magazines and on the Internet.
- Stay away from the gym where you are surrounded by other males stuck masturbating to create a sexuality.

What you will find is that your manual sexual 'bond' you currently have with admired male attributes will begin to fade. It will be confusing at first, because you are so conditioned to masturbating a a certain time each day.

So find another habit. Go walking, go running, do push-ups, in a very short time your new habit will begin to replace your old masturbation habit. Soon you will be able to go 2 or 5 days without a problem.

Remember, the addiction to masturbation is just alike any other addiction. Very similar to drug addiction, where there is withdrawal. Many males think they are just horny. That's not the case, as you will see by the 10th day.

So before you 'commit' to BEING a sexuality, how about first learning what your Organic Sexuality is.

You are guaranteed to surprise yourself.

Sexual Confusion.....Simulating Sexual Attraction

Could it be that the many males who feel 'sexually' attracted to other males are just 'confused' about what sexual attraction actually is?

Admiring another persons 'attributes' is not sexual attraction. However a person can masturbate to those attributes and create a 'manual' simulated sexual attraction for those 'attributes'.

How do you know when you are 'simulating' sexual attraction?

1. You realize that you must make available to you a variety of 'images' of that 'attribute' so that you can become sexually aroused.

2. You realize that you must have available to you a variety of 'images' of that 'attribute' to use for masturbation to release sexual energy.

3. You realize that the only available sexual activity is masturbation, either self stimulation, with the aide of another persons body parts not a sexual organ, or against or inside another person body but not a sexual organ.

However, what he will find is that once he stops masturbating to admired images of 'attributes' he wished he had for or of himself, his simulated sexual 'attraction' for those 'attributes' also diminishes.

What's left for him to do now is to face and overcome his issues of low self esteem that put him in fear of:

- the responsibility of earning the trust of a female,
- the responsibility of a 'commitment' to another person for a lifetime
- the responsibility for raising children and the life long commitment to them

Unfortunately, so many weak minded males choose to hide behind their own fears, cluster in a group of like minded males who are traveling down the same road. Masturbating to male 'attributes' they wished were theirs, and being rejected consistently by their 'attributes' of desire.

Eventually they realize that it's never about a person but only attributes they wished were their own. Which they can never have. These are the males at one point or another, finally realize that the 'choice' to 'be gay' or be their sexual confusion issues was not the best choice to make for their lives.

Others, who have degraded themselves to much for so long, may feel stuck in that lifestyle concept, since the option to earn the respect from anyone 'not' participating in the same sex based behavior is all but nonexistent. The result is their 'role' becomes one of 'convincing' other younger males or other males who are suffering from their own sexual confusion, to follow in their foot steps. Not because it's the best option for them, but because misery loves company.

It's a very sad situation.

Many state their choice is not their own, but if that's the case, who is making them do it???

Gay Purpose????

Could it be that many of the problems male shave when choosing to be gay, is that there is no live purpose connected with that choice?

Think about it, once you choose to be gay, you loose many expectations of you as a male in our society:

1. No expectation of marriage

2. No expectation of children

3. No expectation of a family

What this creates for many males who choose a gay lifestyle, is trying to justify their life. However, what he finds as his biggest challenge is connecting with another male for a 'relationship'.

Why is this? It could be because there is no 'purpose' for the relationship. Since the two males cannot crate growth from the union naturally, there is little focus on creating the union in the first place. So many males get stuck in the never ending quest for a male to be in a relationship with.

Many think of the idea to adopt which is fine. However, finding another male who wants to commit to a relationship with him, AND wants to adopt a child will be his biggest challenge. This is also where the 'relationship' ends.

So this all goes back to 'purpose'. Just as in any situation, there must be a purpose and growth connected to any 'commitment' we make in our lives, or we no longer have a desire to commit.

So before you 'choose' to live a gay lifestyle, you may want to honestly think about what you really want your life experience to be. Do you choose sex and sexual activity, or choose commitment, growth and family?

Then think about if you really want to 'restrict' who you are 'able' to love, based on the person having the same gender as yourself. It could be that your soul mate is not dictated by gender, but by the individual person, no matter what gender.

So before you choose to 'commit' to a gender, you might want to wait and commit to an individual, who actually wants to commit to you.

It's all about purpose and growth.

A Gay, is Not A Gay, Is Not A Gay...

So have you been convinced by the media marketing of the 'gay' group that all males who feel attracted to another male are all the same?

Well think again. There is a reason for this push, and it's tied to the males who want you to believe their hype.

Males that tend to belong or get pushed under the gay umbrella fall into 3 basic categories:

1. Intersex males born less masculine than the average male, who is attracted to the masculinity of other males more masculine than himself. The downside to this is that, the other more masculine male may be doing the exact same thing. Both trying to upgrade their masculinity, and rejecting who is attracted to them, and being rejected by the males they feel attracted to.

2. Normal males who start masturbating to males they admire at puberty, who create a manual sexual attraction to other male 'attributes' they wished they had in themselves(masculinity, muscular body, self confidence, penis size, taller, shorter, better body image, etc). And now he must consistently masturbate to 'admired' male attributes to maintain a sexual attraction to another male.

3. Sexually dysfunctional males who become whores and prostitutes either because they are unable to earn or main taint the trust of a female and resorts to either using other 'gay' males for a sexual outlet, offering themselves to be used by other sexually dysfunctional males for their sexual outlet.

Understanding this, don't you wonder why a person would 'choose' to hide under the gay umbrella, instead of seeking ways to resolve their issues. The side effect of all three categories is an inability for the male to obtain and maintain lasting and trusting friendships and or relationships with either other males or females.

So just maybe instead 'choosing' to BE your dysfunction driven by and controlled by sexual behavior, but 'choosing' to be a whole person who has the potential to earn the respect of others, so friendships and personal relationships are an option.

Something to think about.....

UNDERSTANDING SEXUAL PREFERENCE

There is much confusion around sexuality, sexual activity, sexual preference and gay. Most males don't know or understand the differences, and many tend to lump them all together.

This posting is to help males gain a better understanding of the four concepts.

Sexuality: This is the combination of your sexual preferences and sexual activity.

Sexual Activity: Just as the name implies, this is only chosen sexual activity.

Sexual Preference: This is only the 'preferred' sexual activity chosen by an individual. This does not exclude any type of sexual activity of the person, but only relates to the preference. For instance, a person could prefer mashed potatoes, but will eat carrots from time to time. Mashed potatoes is the preference, but the person is not restricted to only eating mashed potatoes.

Gay: This relates to an individual that has voluntarily 'chosen' to limit or restrict his 'sexual activity' ONLY to his chosen 'sexual preference'. In the case of mashed potatoes and carrots, this person is restricting himself to only having mashed potatoes without the option of ever having carrots. It's not that he does not like carrots, but he chooses not to eat them.

Very simply, what this points out is that most of the conversation about sex and sexuality in our media, is not based on basic factual information about sex and sexuality. The rigid and restrictive concepts connected to the term gay, has turned into the shackle that binds men and women to a lifestyle that 'restricts' their ability to find friendships, love and their soul mates, because the 'option' for that friend or soul mate is now 'restricted' based on gender, and not based on the individual.

It's time to Re-Think what you choose to believe about yourself.

It's A New Day!

THE 30 DAY GAY TEST

THE 30 DAY GAY TEST

Do you think you are gay?
Do you think you were born with a sexual attraction for other males?
Do you think you don't have the ability to have an attraction for females?

Here a test you can do with yourself, so you are sure if your 'attraction' for other males is natural, or manual due to excessive masturbation to male attributes you admire in other males, but wish you had in yourself.

Before you 'choose' to live a life based on sexual attraction, don't you think it's worth spending 30 days to make sure you are making the right decision?

Follow The Steps Below For At Least 30 Days:

1. AVOID MASTURBATING
No masturbating to other desired male images, body parts, etc. If you must masturbate, do so to female images.

2. AVOID THE GYM
The more you try to obtain the 'admired' body parts of another male, the more you confuse sexual attraction with simple admiration. And the harder it will be for you not to masturbate to those 'admired' body parts of another male.

3. AVOID PORN
No online gay chat, no online gay porn, no men's fitness or workout magazines or online sources. This is a major source of masturbation images males use to maintain their sexual bond with admired male attributes.

4. AVOID GAY FRIENDS/MASTURBATION BUDDIES
No interaction with your previous masturbation buddies or masturbation options. Just like breaking any habit, obsession or addiction, avoiding your link to that behavior is a primary step toward recovery.

5. AVOID GAY EVENTS, GAY MEDIA, GAY TV SHOWS
Avoid the many media messages that tell you that you are gay, or that 'gay' is an option for you. Very much like brainwashing, the prodding by media interests for you to 'choose' to be gay is very powerful as they need to recruit more members to validate their own existence.

6. FOCUS ON YOUR INTERESTS
Make a point to actively participate in your hobbies and learn more about your interests. Educate yourself or pay sports you enjoy. Make new friends with other males and females, not based on sexual preference, but based on common interests.


Follow these steps honestly and completely for at least 30 days. Only you know if you are bring honest with yourself.

For many the sexual obsession created through consistent masturbation is like a drug addition and requires a period of detox. The longer you have been masturbating to maintain your manual sexual bond with other male attributes, the more difficult it may be for you to experience living without masturbation.

Before you let 'others' tell you or 'convince' you to join the 'gay' group, or commit to limit your emotional relationships based on a gender, and not based on an individual person, you may want to give yourself a chance to really be clear on the live you are choosing to live.

Good Luck!