Can't stop masturbating?

Have you realized yet that the more you masturbate, the more you 'feel' attracted to other males?

Most males who 'feel' attracted to other males they 'admire', have no clue that they are only 'sexually' attracted based on their consistent masturbation to those 'admired' attributes of another male.

The most confused are those who feel they were 'born' sexually attracted to other males. Never realizing that before puberty, humans do not have a sexual attraction to anything. Remember: puberty brings the hormones that drive sexual attraction.

But it is interesting what a person is willing to believe, as a means to justify their 'addiction'.

Yes, addiction. Most males only 'choose' to 'be' gay, because they have become addicted to masturbating to 'characteristics' of other males they admire.

The sad part is that those males with 'admired' male characteristics will not 'admire' him in return. This is because the other 'gay' male is doing the exact same thing.

Trying to 'upgrade'.

So the next time you are rejected by another male, and you want to blame the rejection on 'his' problem, him not knowing what he wants, him being obsessed with bodies, him playing games, etc, it's just that he is doing exactly the same thing you are doing.

Trying to 'upgrade'.

If you don't think this is true, just try to go 10 days without masturbation, gay porn videos and on the web, in magazines, and avoid the gym.

What you will find is that the less you masturbate, the less your 'manual' sexual attraction will be. But if you are content with hiding under the gay umbrella, just continue masturbating.

An addiction is not an easy thing to overcome, no matter what you might be addicted to.

Trapped under the gay umbrella?

It's interesting how illogical so many men are when it comes to sexuality and sexual activity. It's as of they have no clue about who they are as males, or any factual knowledge about male sexuality. Which is why they end up controlled by the 'side effects' of their own behavior.

Here are a few facts to get you thinking:

Males are able to be attracted to and have sex with both males and females.

Over 87% of males admit to being attracted to both males and females.

Over 60% of males admit to having some sort of sexual activity with both males and females.

Over 75% of married males admit to being attracted to both males and females, along with having sexual activity with males and females at different times in their lives.

These males also have the 'option' and ability to establish relationships with a male or female based on common interest, respect and trust.

However, when a male 'chooses' to BE Gay, he 'restricts' his options for relationships to only other males.

Choosing to BE Gay, he no longer has the 'option' for sexual intercourse, but only masturbation with, on, against or inside another male for the rest of his life.

Choosing to BE Gay, his 'attraction' for other males is primarily tied to his 'desire' for body parts, masculinity and attributes of another male, he 'wished' he had in himself.

Choosing to BE Gay, his desire for his 'admired' male only has him rejected, because that other 'gay' males is doing exactly the same thing.

Choosing to BE Gay, he is left to simulating relationships, simulating intercourse, simulating friendships and choosing to live a lifestyle based on sexual desire and sexual activity.

So with so many males complain about how 'difficult' it is to BE Gay, why do they do it to themselves??

Could it be that it's only his consistent masturbation to images of the 'desired' males has the same impact of a drug addict?

Could it be that just like the drug addict, he can't see how he is creating his own exaggerated obsession for males not like himself?

Could it be that he has been stuck in this never ending cycle for so long, it's all he knows?

Could it be that he knows that he has done so much to degrade himself sexually for so many years, that he feels trapped in his chosen lifestyle?

Could it be that just like over 87% of males, he has a 'choice' as to who he has sex with?

Could it be that his 'choice' to BE Gay, is exactly what keeps him from being who he really is?

Could it be that the longer he 'chooses' to BE Gay, or blame 'Gay' for his obsession with masturbation, his sexual activity, his obsession with more masculine, more muscular, more confident males, the harder it will be for him to 'detox', so he has the opportunity to find who he really is?

Could it be that his choice to buy into the marketing of the 'gay brand' is why he is trying to create a lifestyle out of sex and sexual activity?

Could it be that he is not 'trapped' under the gay umbrella?

Could this be you?

Rejected and don't know why?

Society does not reject you because you are attracted to the same gender

Your family does not reject you because you are attracted to the same gender

Other males do not reject you because you are attracted to the same gender

They reject you because you 'choose' not to earn respect from Society

They reject you because you 'choose' not to earn respect from they family

They reject you because you 'choose' not to earn respect from other males

They reject you because you 'choose' to create a life based on sexuality

They reject you because you 'choose' to create a life based on sexual orientation

They reject you because you 'choose' to create a life based on sexual activity

They reject you because you 'choose' to create a life based on 'Being Gay'

HARD TRUTHS

Have you noticed how the more feminine males are obsessed with 'attaching' the gay label on the males who are attracted to other males?

Could it be that the more feminine males are only trying deal with their own insecurity about their femininity by attempting to attach themselves to the more masculine males they wished they were, and who are more accepted in our society.

Could it be that the natural conflict between the masculine bisexual male, and the feminine bisexual male is that they both naturally are naturally attracted to more masculinity.

- The more feminine male seeks a male who is more masculine than himself.

- The more masculine male seeks a male who is more masculine than himself.

The result is:
(A): The more feminine male will join the gay group and constantly frustrate himself by obsessing over the more masculine male who will never be attracted to him.

(B): The more masculine male will constantly focus on distancing himself from the more feminine males and anything associated with the feminine male's gay group.

THE SOLUTION:
1. Realize that trying to create a lifestyle or identity based on sexual attraction, sexuality and sexual activity will NEVER work out.

2. Feminine males should stop masturbating to more masculine males who will NEVER be attracted to them, so that they are able to build a natural attraction to other feminine males like themselves. If they don't want someone like themselves, why do they expect someone else to.

3. Masculine males should stop masturbating to more masculine males and body parts they desire for themselves, so they can stop trying to 'upgrade' their masculinity and body image, so that they are able to maintain an attraction to another male like themselves.

4. Understand that no type of 'relationship' whether it's a friendship or intimate relationship can have a chance, if it's not based on 'earned' respect of both parties.

5. Understand that no type of 'friendship' can have a chance if both parties only have sex and sexuality in common.

6. Understand that no intimate relationship can have a chance if it doesn't start with a respectful and trusting friendship.

HARD TRUTHS:
No matter how many movies and television shows provide the 'image' of the more masculine male who is attracted to the feminine male, understand that it's television, make believe, not reality.

No matter how much you want it not to be true, if you do not show respect for yourself, and if you are not able to earn respect of the other male, he will not want you in his life.

If you do not focus on building yourself into a 'whole' person with morals, values, thoughts and ideas, no one will have a purpose to be with you long term. Period.

The more you 'try' to be an individual or 'yourself' the more you are 'trying' to be a stereotype.

If you try to create a lifestyle or identity out of 'being gay', you are only setting yourself up for failure because there will always be another male more attractive, more masculine you will be attracted to, who will reject you.

And your 'choice' to live a lifestyle based on sexual desire and activity is the only reason you will be rejected by your family and our society.

If you let the 'marketing' of the 'gay brand' create an identity for you, you will only end up trying to 'be' a shell of a person trying to be a stereotype.

By not understanding your biological birth, you only set yourself up to be 'blamed' for your birth when you had nothing to do with it. However, you have everything to do with the 'choice' if you choose to create a lifestyle or identity based on sexual attraction and sexual activity...being gay.

SO WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO NOW?

Afraid To Be.....Not Gay?

You would be surprised at the number of males who 'choose' to be gay, just because they were too scared or never learned how to approach females at an early age.

A NEVER ENDING STREAM...
Every day thousands of boys as they reach puberty are confused about the raging hormones and the complexity of females. With many of the young males not either having a male to guide them, or being afraid to communicate his fear of the opposite sex, he puts his focus on what he is 'comfortable' with. Other males he admire.

His mistake is thinking that any other male early on was ever confident with females at a young age. All males go through the frustrating and awkward period of trial and error, and rejection before he gained his confidence in dealing with the opposite sex.

It all starts with masturbation..
However, if the male gives up too quickly, and with is hormones raging, any amount of nakedness or physical contact will be seen as sexual. School showers often times are the catalyst for many adolescent boys obsession with masturbating to those 'admired' and desired body parts he wished he had of those other more confident males. And through his consistent masturbation, he creates a 'manual' sexual bond with the other male body parts or characteristic, that must be maintained with consistent masturbation.

Understand, that for this male, it's never going to be about the male or individual. Only the characteristics or body parts that he admires or 'wishes' he had for himself. This is why his countless attempts at boyfriends and 'relationships' fail so consistently. The characteristics or body parts he desires are very rarely ever looking for his characteristics or body parts.

Even though he remembers back when he 'used' to be sexually attracted to females, he is confident that his sexual attraction for males is stronger, so he 'must' be gay.

Overshadowed natural sexual attraction:
But what he doesn't realize is that his consistent masturbation to those admired characteristics and body parts of other males, is what begins to overshadow his natural sexual attraction for females. The result is that he is sure that he still sees females as 'attractive' but he is not 'sexually' attracted to them.

Also, due to his exaggerated manual sexual bond with other male characteristics and body parts, the females that he is attracted to must be exaggerated in femininity also.

Exaggerated Femininity:
This is why so many 'gay' males are obsessed with female actresses and singers who are 'over the top' with glamor and femininity. From Diana Ross to Madonna, or really any female who in costume and performance, presents an 'exaggerated' expression of femininity, these males will find themselves obsessed or highly attracted to them, but they won't attach sexuality to the attraction.

This is because their natural sexual attraction for females is being overshadowed or covered up, by his manual sexual 'bond' he continues to create by masturbating to male characteristics and body parts that he 'wishes' were his own. But he is still attracted, but does not quite understand why.

And for most of these males, it all started with either being afraid of females and what he is supposed to do, or being rejected as a young boy by females, and that rejection mentally scared him to the point where he never wanted to go through that rejection again.

The Result:
So what does he choose to do...he hides under the gay umbrella, continuing to masturbate to the male characteristics or body parts of males he wishes were his, but can never be. He spends countless hours in gyms all over the country trying desperately to obtain the body parts of another male he admires from a magazine, movie, TV show, in public or in the gym itself.

Or he goes the opposite route, and tries to simulate a female in the attempt to attract the more masculine males that are naturally attracted to female. The sad part about this concept is that if the male was actively sexually attracted to females, he would seek the actual female.

It's all about marketing:
Marketing professionals know this is happening, so they market heavily to this group of 'gay' males, offering them gym memberships, weight gain pills, powders and liquids, sexual enhancement drugs and machines, exercise machines to use at home and lots and lots of porn so that the 'gay' male has a steady stream of body parts to admire and desire for himself, which keeps him coming back for more.

Don't think this is about you?
Well, just try and be honest and ask yourself a few questions:

1. Did you used to be attracted to females, but you just feel more attracted to males?

2. Did you never have sex with a female but have masturbated with another male, so that must mean you are 'gay'?

3. You know you are sexually attracted to females and males, but you choose to masturbate with males because it wouldn't be fair to the female?

4. Did you just give up and decide that 'gay' was who you were, so you never have to admit being afraid of females or rejected by them?

5. Do you really feel that you are 'rejecting' other people that choose to 'be' gay, because you are trying to understand who you really are?

6. Could it be that fear is what has you trying to 'be' gay in the first place?

7. Is masturbating to other male characteristics and body parts, or trying to simulate sexual intercourse or a 'relationship' really working out for you?

Take the Challenge:
It's just you and a computer screen. So you don't have to lie to yourself anymore. So give yourself a chance to at least try and understand what happened. Take the 10 Day Sex Detox Challenge. Go for 10 days without the gym, porn of any type, fitness magazines, gay friends, masturbation, sex buddies, gay clubs, gay events, etc.

Go for 10 days, keep a journal of how you feel about yourself, your current lifestyle, your current future and notice how your perceptions begin to change as you make it past the 5th day. You will get bored, since you have spent so much time working at being gay. But this is a great time to figure out what your real hobbies and interests are and participate in them.

This is not rocket science. I actually takes effort to maintain a manual sexual 'bond', so when you stop working at it, things naturally fall back into place.

Give yourself a chance.

It's a New Day! Expand your Mind in 2009!

CONTRADICTIONS...

AM I LOOKING FOR YOU......BUT NOT REALLY?

Have you figured out yet that what you tell yourself that you are looking for in another male, is the opposite of what you are actually looking for?

Not realizing that you are in a constant state of trying to upgrade your masculinity, body image and self esteem, you tell yourself what you want to believe about yourself, but your actions are clearly targeted at the attempt to 'upgrade'.

Most guys will agree, but only for 'other' guys but not themselves. Still in denial about their own actions, which has them stuck in the same never ending cycle.

Does this sound familiar?

Not looking for a male more masculine than I am, but not looking for anyone less masculine.

Not looking for a male more muscular than I am ,but not looking for anyone less muscular, average, overweight or skinny.

Not looking for a male with a larger/harder penis than I have, but not looking for anyone with a smaller, softer penis.

Not looking for male who is into 3somes and group sex or a sex buddy, but not looking for anyone I don't want to have sex with.

So do you still wonder why it's so hard to make real friends, or find a mate?

Just maybe when you realize that trying to 'be' gay is only an attempt to hide from the fact that you don't understand why you may have been born biologically bisexual and naturally attracted to other males, or how obsessive masturbating to other males you 'admire' has created a manual sexual bond with those body parts that you wished where your own.

Even if out of desperation you try to 'date' other males of many other body types, shapes and sizes, you will still end up masturbating to males more masculine, more muscular, with a larger or harder penis or who is more confident than yourself.

So think about it. How long are you going to continue to lie to yourself, so you can continue to hide under the gay umbrella?

Just think about it!

Conversation with a Gay Male.....sort of....

ME: So tell me your views. Do you feel people are born gay, even though humans are only born biologically male, female and intersex/bisexual?

Him: I don't think being gay is a choice. (well I speak for myself)

ME: ok...just trying to understand. How can a person 'be gay', if no human or animal can be 'born gay'. Where does the 'gay' come from? Biologically humans are only male, female or intersex/bisexual. That's it.

HIM: I don't think it's about whether u are born gay or not..it's about attraction..

ME: ok...so are you saying that you are not born gay, but your 'attraction' is what is gay?

HIM: I am born as me.. I can't explain why I am attracted to this or that.. ....

ME: ok. that helps. Do you think that instead of looking for an answer and 'gay' was being marketed heavily in the media, you kinda just settled for 'being gay' so you won't have to think about it anymore?

HIM: I don't classify myself as anything but (name)..who happens to like guys...

ME: good deal. so do you think that anyone is 'born' gay? Just seeing what's on your mind (name).

HIM: I can't really answer that. I answer questions based on how they factor into my life. I don't think it's good to generalize things..

ME: I hear you. But we are just talking about basic human biology that is not 'individual', meaning that we don't get a choice in the matter since humans are only biologically born male, female or intersex/bisexual. So it's not if people want to 'believe' they were born gay, democrat, or Christian, but just based on basic biology.

I ask this because so many guys are stuck in an endless loop, of basing their whole life on a myth, when they never even stop to look at the facts so that they can make better choices going forward.

But very similar to how we started, he claims he is gay, when facts are presented, he was not born gay, but 'something'. I think it's the biologically Intersex/Bisexual term that they don't want to own. What do you think?

HIM: society terms everything...so people fall into all kinds of categories.. I don't think it's about exploring further.. it's how society has "termed" it..

ME: Interesting perspective. But remember, YOU are that society. It's so easy to blame 'society' for our choices, because it really has no face or name, but all along it's the individual that is the cause and effect. But one thing about biology is that is does not follow any society concepts.

Then again, if it was based on society, why would so many males 'choose' the gay lifestyle based on sex and sexual attraction, when it's guaranteed to have them rejected from our society, to where they must belong to the gay 'community'.

HIM: just by that fact alone..why would anyone choose something "knowingly" that is going to have them rejected by society?

ME: BINGO!

1. Joining the gay group is a CHOICE.

2. Being born with a level of the Intersex/bisexual condition is NOT a Choice.

3. Males born Intersex/bisexual will Naturally be attracted to both genders because they are mentally and or physically both genders

4. Males will always 'admire' what he wants for himself, more masculinity, more muscularity, more confidence, bigger car, bigger house, faster car, bigger TV, etc

5. Its only when he starts to masturbate to those things he 'admires' does he crate a sexual 'bond' with those things he admires.

6. This is why it's never really going to be about the person. But only the 'attributes' he 'admires' or wants for himself or feels lacking in himself.

7. Friendship is what the intersex/bisexual male is looking for, but the consistent masturbation makes that virtually impossible, because his criteria for a friend, must also meet his exaggerated criteria for the male 'attributes' that he has created a sexual 'bond' with.

Is any of this starting to make sense to you now?

Gay Myths.....what some people are willing to believe.

Below are a few of the most common gay myths that some people continue to tell themselves, or they try to believe to try and make sense of their attraction for the same gender, or to justify their sexual activity.

It's amazing what people are willing to believe about themselves and others, when they don't really understand who they are in the first place.

MYTH 1: Humans and animals can be born gay
Fact: Humans and animals are only born biologically gender male, gender female, gender intersex/bisexual. There is no biologically gay birth in the human or animal world.

MYTH 2: No one chooses to be gay
Fact: Gay is only a group identifier that people 'choose' to identify with who have gender or sexual sexual differences, obsessions or dysfunctions.

MYTH 3: Being gay is like being a minority race of people
Fact: Being gay is a 'chosen' group identifier. People are born of a particular race. Actually biologically bisexual men and women at all levels mental and or physical, outnumber single gender males and females in our country.

MYTH 4: Humans who claim they are attracted to males and females are just suppressing the fact that they are gay.
Fact: Humans and animals born biologically bisexual are naturally sexually attracted to both genders, because they themselves are of both genders, mentally and or physically.

MYTH 5: All males who feel sexually attracted to other males are all the same.
Fact: Biologically Intersex/bisexual males are born with 'various' degrees of female, which means they will be more or less naturally attracted to other males.

MYTH 6: If a male is born biologically Intersex/bisexual he has no control over his sexual actions.
Fact: It's only when he consistently masturbates to images of the males he wishes he was more like, who are more masculine, muscular or confident than himself, does he begin to feel his obsession with other males is out of his control.

MYTH 7: All males who are sexually attracted to other males are gay
Fact: Most males who feel 'sexually' attracted to other males only feel so because early on they started masturbating to images of males who they 'admired', who were the stronger, more masculine, more muscular, more confident, more popular males they wanted to be like. Most of these males join the gay group because they don't understand what's happening to them and the media gives them an easy out...join the gay group.

MYTH 8: Humans and animals can be Homosexual or Heterosexual
Fact: Homosexual and Heterosexual are only 'types' of sexual activity. Homosexual type sexual activity is between two of the same gender. Heterosexual type sexual activity is between two of the opposite gender. Any gender male, gender female, gender intersex/bisexual can have either 'type' of sexual activity if they choose to do so, at any time. No human or animal can BE a 'type' of sexual activity.

MYTH 9: People can be Homophobic
Fact: Homophobic only means 'Homo = human(homosapien), phobic(phobia) = fear. This would mean a person is in fear of humans.

MYTH 10: People who belong to the gay group are rejected by their families and our society because of how they were born.
Fact: Many gay group members are rejected by their families and our society because of their choice to live a life based on overt and promiscuous sexual activity, with little to no benefit to our society. Some members of the gay group even though they choose to identify with the group, do not participate in the given lifestyle of the groups members and do not feel rejected by their families or our society.

MYTH 11: Some states have passed laws allowing gay marriage
Fact: States have approved Same Gender marriages, but never a 'gay' marriage law.

MYTH 12: White males have better success with lasting gay relationships.
Fact: The success rate is no better for any race of people in our society. There are just millions more white males in the U.S that joined the gay groups and are more 'committed' to the gay group than any other race of people. For instance, there is about 600% more white people in the U.S than African-Americans. It's also easy to think there is more success based on our media's focus on white males who joined the gay group.

MYTH 13: Females have better success with lasting relationships than males
Fact: Females have the worst success rate with relationship and with 'same gender' marriages where legalized. Part of this confusion is that males want to see success in same gender relationships when he can't see it with other males, so they try and convince themselves that females are able to be successful. But females will tell you just the opposite.

THINK ABOUT IT...
So think about what you are 'choosing' to be, and what you are using to 'justify' your life or lifestyle. It just might be that the myth that you are trying to base your life on.

It's a New Day. Expand Your Mind in 2009!

Only Because He IS.....What You Are NOT

Why do you think it is, that the males you feel you are 'attracted' to, just happen to be who you 'wished' you were?

When you are ready to be honest with yourself, you will realize that one or more of the following applies to you:

- You are attracted to masculine males, because you really don't feel as masculine as other guys.

- You are attracted to more muscular or athletic guys, because you 'wished' you had their body.

- You are attracted to a larger or harder penis, because you 'wished' you had a larger or that your penis would get or stay as hard.

- You are attracted to intelligent guys, because you 'wished' that you were as intelligent as you think he is.

- You are attracted to confident guys, because you 'wished' that you were as confident as you think he is.

- You are attracted to guys with respect for themselves, because you 'wished' that you were able to maintain respect for yourself.

- You are attracted to guys who are more stable and successful, because you 'wished' that you were able to have stability and success in your life.

Now if you still think that none of this applies to you, then think about the male images you use to masturbate to. Then pay attention to how the more you masturbate to those 'wished' attributes of another male, the more obsessed you become about those attributes.

Also notice that you must have a steady stream of 'wished' for male attributes to masturbate to for you to maintain your 'attraction' to those male attributes.

And finally, what you may already have figured out is that your only 'attraction' for other males, just may be in the 'attributes' you 'wished' that you had for yourself, and never really an 'attraction' for that other male.

Because no matter how you try to justify it or 'pretend' that your attraction is all mental or based on loving that person, what you will find is what keeps you from finding and maintaining a honest, respectful and lasting relationship with another male, is your desire to have the attributes of another male that you can NEVER have.

So maybe when you ready to stop 'justifying' your actions, or justifying your choice to 'be gay', it just might be time to finally gain an understanding of who you really are.

It's a New Day! Expand your Mind in 2009!

Admiration Confused with Sexual Attraction

You would be surprised at how so many males confuse a sexual attraction with 'Admiration', and this normal admiration becomes why he ends up choosing to be DL, Bi-Sexual, or Gay.

The funny thing about this is that these males were never born bisexual in the first place. They never started out with a sexual attraction for other males, but it was 'learned'.

I am sure you are thinking, 'now how can a person learn to be sexually attracted to another male.?'

Well, it's easier than you would think:

Let's go back in time a bit. As a young boy, there are always other boys around you. In most cases these other boys might be older, bigger, stronger or more confident than you were as a younger boy. Guess what, these are the boys you begin to 'admire', and want to be like based on their attributes.

Not sure about this? Well, try to think about a male who is less masculine, less muscular or stronger, or less confident than yourself.....and honestly ask yourself if you 'admire' that male or want to be like that male? Than answer is consistently no.

Why, because males tend to want the bigger, stronger, faster, taller, more powerful/confident and more popular of everything. From cars, to stereos, flat panel televisions, homes, clothes, jewelery, etc.

This included attributes of another male. Why do you think there are millions of males in gyms spending up to 8 hours a week lifting weights, trying to obtain the arms, chest, back, legs, neck, forearms, calves, butt, or biceps of another male who just happens to have a larger, stronger, more masculine looking version of any of those body parts?

Just look at your own situation. Who are the males you 'feel' attracted to? Why do you go to the gym on a regular basis? Remember, FIT is a word that was created just to justify the obsession with wanting another males body parts. So don't confuse yourself any longer thinking the days and hours you spend in a gym is tied to your health.

It's all about seeking a body image you 'admire' of someone else. And even if you don't spend hours in a gym, just think of the males that you 'admire'. Are they masculine, more muscular/fit/athletic, do they look strong, are they confident??

So how did you begin to confuse basic admiration with a sexual attraction?

This creeps up on so many males in adolescence so innocently, that they don't even realize it's happening. It could be due to the fact that parents are so afraid to talk about sex with their children, that their children create habits all on their own which impact them for a lifetime.

For males, it all starts with masturbation.
Masturbation is a very powerful 'bonding' tool. Whatever he focus' on while masturbating and feeling the intense pleasure of organism, will be 'bonded' with that intense pleasure.

It's funny, but this is why so many guys have fetishes for feet, legs, hands, penis, forearms, and most any body part of their own visible while masturbating and having an orgasm.

Just think about it...the foot fetish is always about the top of the foot. The hand fetish about the top of the hand, the flexed forearm, the flexed muscles of the thigh, and the erect penis.

But for these males, it's all manual. If they stopped masturbating to mental images of other male body parts they admire, or while looking at their own body parts, but focused on mental images of females who they desire, the manual sexual 'bond' with those 'admired' male body parts would continue to decrease and be replaced by his own natural sexual desire for females over a very short period of time.

This is so simple, but so powerful at the same time. It's amazing how quickly manual sexual bonds are created and disconnected.

Next, if he would stop trying to obtain the body parts of another male in gyms that he admires, which only creates a never ending obsession with those body parts. When you think about it, the gym is like the cigarette to the smoker. You can't stop smoking if you keep carrying cigarettes around...you will eventually will smoke again.

The Gym/Fitness industry knows this very well. They know their demographics and understand that if they get the younger male around puberty to start working out in a gym, they have him for a lifetime.

Do you wonder why they let boys of age 14 on the gym floor??
Because at puberty when hormones are raging, and throwing him in a gym with male body parts that he 'admires' and wants for himself so badly, he will eventually begin to masturbate to those body parts. And before he knows it, he now feels 'naturally' attracted to other males.

The problem with most males is that they know so little about their own sexuality, and if they get an erection, it means they are sexually attracted to that thing or person, when it's more about a body part or characteristic of a person that is the cause of the attraction.

Test yourself....see if it's true for you

Try the 10 Day Sex Detox Challenge.
- No Porn
- No Gym
- No Masturbation
- No Men's Workout Magazines
- No Gay Web/Sex Sites
- No Hooking up with your male sex buddies
- No Gay Clubs/bars/events
- Avoid Your Committed Gay Friends

What you will notice during that 10 day period is that your 'natural' male sexual attraction for females will get stronger, as your 'manual' attraction for other male body parts begin to weaken. And if MUST masturbate 'after' the 10 day detox, then ONLY masturbate to images of females you desire, and not even your own body parts.

Your Future:
What you will begin to realize is that your options for the future open up for you, because you are no longer driven by your manual body part/image obsession with other males. And now you can truly begin to 'be' who you really are, and not who you masturbated yourself into.

And your options for a mate can now be based on the person, and not who who you 'wished' you were, or a desire body part or greater level of masculinity than your own.

Have You Been Tested??

Do you ever think about the fact that so many males must focus on being 'tested' for sexually transmitted diseases, primarily because they are 'choosing' to have sexual activity with so many other males?

Just think about this for a minute:
Would you have a need to be tested for sexually transmitted diseases if you weren't choosing to have have sex with so many people you did not know?

That logic seems to have gone lost of many males who are caught in the web of 'being gay' and sexual activity being their 'identity', which they feel they must continue because it's 'who' they are.

Does that make any sense to you?
On thousands of profiles on the hundreds gay male sex websites, males try and find some level of pride in the fact that they are able to have promiscuous sex on a regular basis, but state they have not contracted a sexually transmitted disease.

Could the chosen 'lifestyle' that is based on promiscuous sexual activity, be the root cause for the steady increasing rate of sexually transmitted diseases among these males? All based on 'chosen' sexual activity. It's all a CHOICE.


What if you HONESTLY asked yourself a few basic questions before you made your choice?

- What if you choose 'not' to have promiscuous sexual activity with strangers on a regular or irregular basis that required consistent testing?

- What if you didn't hope and wish that he was not infected with a disease?

- What if you choose not participate in activity, that required constant testing to diagnose 'when' you will contract a sexually transmitted disease?

- What if you choose not to ignore your common sense, and continue to have sex with another male you 'know' is having promiscuous sex with other males?

- What if you choose not to believe any other male based on what he tells you about his STD Status?

- What if you didn't try to blame the 'other' male for being deceitful about his STD Status?

- What if you didn't try to blame the other male for having promiscuous sex, when he's doing the exact same thing that now has you infected?

- What if you focused on regaining your self respect, so that you would not have a need for promiscuous sex with strangers?

- What if you didn't continue to try and justify a 'lifestyle' based on the exact sexual behavior that will soon have you infected with a STD?

- What if you made better choices for your life with a future in mind?

There is ALWAYS a reason:
So maybe the next time you see a profile on the web, or a guy boasts about being 'tested', or who is actively or 'willing' to have promiscuous sex with you who he does not know.......just remember that there is a reason why he needs to be tested on a regular basis.

Think real hard on that fact before you choose to have sex with that person. And if you 'choose' to have sex with that person, it's all on you, because you already know why.

Whether the real test is whether or not you are 'choosing' the actions that requires testing for STD in the first place.

It's a New Day! Expand Your Mind in 2009

Seriously Committed to Being Gay......Seriously?

A conversation I had with an older white 'out gay' male who said more than he intended.

In an attempt to justify his many years of promiscuous sexual behavior, he now felt that he would be a hypocrite if he entertained any views about himself, outside of what he has adopted as 'being' gay, or his chosen gay lifestyle, tied to sexual obsession/addiction.

This was very interesting. Because like many other males, he has become trapped under the gay umbrella, and it is only in his mind or based on the approval of the 'group' that he has joined, that keeps him there. He felt that if he changed his life, it would be a rejection of all that he has stood for or claimed to 'be' for so many years.

Gay, religion and gangs.
As mentioned in previous articles, it's very clear that the 'belief' in being gay and the 'belief' in many religions, and gang membership are very much alike.

- Each are committed to a 'concept' that has no basis, besides what other people told them about themselves and their world.

- Each are resistant to gain any knowledge outside of the very limited concepts that hold their perceived world together.

- When either group go to the extreme with their 'belief', they are the most unhappy and dysfunctional people you would ever want to meet.

- When any member tries to leave the group, they are attacked by members of that same group.

Why is this happening?
So what is it about the people of these two groups. Just maybe what's common among them is themselves, and not the group at all?

Individuals that are alone or lonely, or who don't feel part of the larger society, or who feel rejected by even those closest to them, tend to seek refuge in groups, clicks or gangs is you will.

The mentality is the same. Adopt a behavior or 'lifestyle' based on being unlike everyone else, which causes them to exaggerate their difference even more than they started. Which in turn has them even rejected by members of their own group in the end.

Either way, it's a failed plan, tied to an attempt to run from the unknown or what's not understood about themselves. And instead of seeking answers, they give up and crowd under the same umbrella as many other lonely, lost and rejected souls needing help, not cover.

Just because you call yourself gay, doesn't mean you are happy.
They can pretend they are happy all they want, but just look at their lives, and what their future holds for them. Do you see anything to be happy about?

The false concept of doing the best with what they have, is only trying to carry a snowball in your hands, in the summertime. You can't advance by doing the same thing and getting the same results and just existing. Unless that's all your life is to be about.

Choosing to be whores(unpaid), and prostitutes(paid), tends to be the resulting life. Many try to justify this by attempting to compare their actions with those non-gay men and women, who are also rejected based on their sex based lifestyles. Some how in their logic, it's OK to be a whore or prostitute, if someone else is doing it also. This is where you play back the story your mother told you about jumping off a bridge if your friend did it.

But it doesn't have to be this way.
What so many males have not understood is that if they would only begin to seek knowledge about how they were born, about their attraction for the same sex, along with an attraction for the opposite sex.

If they would ask themselves more questions as to:
- Why and how he became 'more' attracted to the same gender over time?
- Why is it that they are really only attracted to males more masculine
- Why is it that is really only attracted to males more muscular than himself?
- Why is it that the more masculine, more muscular males are never really attracted to him...or not for long?
- Why can't he build lasting friendships with males without having to masturbate with them
- Why does he avoid thinking about his future, his 40s, 50s, 60s...

And maybe the most important question of all would be:
If his current lifestyle was not his choice, then who's making him do it?

If It's Not a Choice, Who's Making You Do It?

Have you noticed how it seems most committed gay and Biologically Bisexual males, are just going through the motions in their lives?

- They go through online profiles of other males, not looking for anything.

- They just met guys with nothing in common, just to have something to do.

- They are committed to being a term, and they don't even know what it means.

- They post naked images of themselves on websites that no one asked to see.

- They spend so much time trying to 'be' what a group told them to be, they don't even know who they are as individuals outside of the group.

- They masturbate with other guys because they are bored or lonely.

- They get high constantly so they don't have to think or feel anything.

- They have sex 'activity' with groups of guys because they are tired of pretending to be interested in one guy.

- They call themselves a term that means happy, but they are anything but that.

- They modify their physical appearance to gain attention, just any kind of attention.

- They are rejected by other males, so they degrade themselves sexually, which guarantees they will continue to be rejected.

- They try to see pain as pleasure, so they can feel something after years of constant masturbation.

- They have no life plan, because they haven't begun to live their life yet.


So there is the question:

If your lifestyle is not a 'choice'........then who's making you do it?????????

It's a New Day....Expand Your Mind In 2009!

2 Primary Reasons You Can't Find Friends....

Biologically Bisexual males have the most difficult time establishing and maintaining friendships and an even more difficult time establishing and maintaining intimate relationships as well.

A majority of the reasons for these difficulties, is his not understanding that he is biologically bisexual, and not understanding how to manage both his male and female aspects.

Friendships with other males fail mostly because:

1. His female aspect is always looking for more masculinity than he has within himself

2. His male aspect is always looking for a body image that he 'admires' and wants for himself.

So the result is that when he thinks he is seeking a friendship, he is actually trying to meet the masculinity requirement of his female aspect, along with the body image requirement of his male aspect.

He then exaggerates both requirements with consistent masturbation to the body images of more masculine and muscular males than himself.

The result of the consistent masturbation is:
- His female aspect will require an an even higher level of masculinity than his own, which has him automatically rejected by the other biologically bisexual male who is doing the same thing.

- His male aspect will require an even more muscular body image, because he will begin to try and obtain that body image in gyms by lifting weights obsessively. But he will still be rejected or used for his body and rejected, because even if the other biologically bisexual male is attracted to his body image or body parts, he will still reject him based on his level of masculinity that his own female aspect sees not masculine enough.

However, when the biologically bisexual male learns to balance his male and female aspects by:
- Learning more about his own biologically bisexual birth

- Understanding that his biologically bisexual birth has little to do with sex and sexuality

- Learning how to harness the natural born skills and abilities born of him by being born more mentally male and female and single gender males and females do not have within themselves.

- Limiting his masturbation to more muscular and more masculine body images

- Not restricting friendships to only biologically bisexual males

- Not restricting his potential for intimate relationships to only biologically bisexual males

- Not attempting to create a lifestyle based on sexual activity and his exaggerated 'attraction' for other males

- Not allowing a group or the media define who he is, capitalizing on his initial confusion about human sexuality.

- Take the "10 Day Sex Detox Challenge" so you can gain a glimpse of what life was like, before you created your exaggerated attraction and obsession for an upgrade.

Then his whole world opens up.

He no longer has a need to hide under the gay umbrella of shame, because he knows that it is not 'who' he is

He is able to become part of out society as a whole, because he no longer is living his life based on sexual desire and activity

He no longer has a need to restrict friendships based on sexual desire or body image

He no longer has a need to restrict his ability to build personal intimate relationships with others based on gender.

Give Yourself A Chance!

Nuts and Bolts...but not what you think..

Ok, I have to get this out there, because most guys into homosexual type of sexual activity tend to forget this little fact.

Since this is a general audience blog, I will replace anus with Nuts, and penis with Bolts.

Have you noticed that 'traditional' homosexual type sexual activity has become licking what comes out of Nuts, and sucking what comes out of Bolts. Could this also be why even other 'gay' or males who participate in homosexual type sexual activity have a hard time even respecting each other, never mind not even thinking of seeking the respect of the rest of our society.

Many of these males try to justify their nuts and bolts activity by the already rejected aspect of our society that participate in heterosexual type sexual activity. But that they fail to recognize is that they are basing their 'lifestyle' on a plan that has already failed. So it's not rocket science to understand how by them committing the similar activity, that they would be rejected also.

The diseases:
Then it's all the diseases that he exposes himself to. Not just normal sexual transmitted diseases, but feces and urine related diseases that are popular among the many males who participate in Nuts and Bolts activity. There is no way humanly possible to clean all of the feces residue from the Nut, or urine from the Bolt, no matter how much you want to think it's not there. Like dogs, you are eating feces and drinking urine every time you take part.

Ok, let's take society out of the picture.
Ask yourself, would you want to kiss someone that you know put their tongue in Nuts, or their mouth on the Bolts of many other males before you?

Remember....You Are What You Eat!

So how does the biologically bisexual male have sexual intimacy with another male, without losing his self respect and degrading himself in the eyes of anyone that he 'admires' or would like to have as a make, but who rejects him?

Well, he can start by rejecting the idea that sucking on Bolts and sticking his tongue inside the Nuts of other males he is not committed to.

Then he can regain much of his self respect by rejecting the idea of sticking his tongue inside the Nut of another male, whether he is committed to him or not. No one will respect a person who they see licking anyone else's Nut. PERIOD!

What may confuse the many males about this issue, is their consistent viewing of porn on the web, on DVD or in magazines. Even the desperate males on gay sex sites offer service to your Nut, because they have already been rejected by males in the real world.

And just maybe if you tried to stop the consistent masturbation to those images, you would begin to open your eyes to the truth of the situation.

So what's the point?

Now ask yourself....could your sexual activity be one of the primary reason why no other male would want to be with you....a second time.