Afraid To Be.....Not Gay?

You would be surprised at the number of males who 'choose' to be gay, just because they were too scared or never learned how to approach females at an early age.

A NEVER ENDING STREAM...
Every day thousands of boys as they reach puberty are confused about the raging hormones and the complexity of females. With many of the young males not either having a male to guide them, or being afraid to communicate his fear of the opposite sex, he puts his focus on what he is 'comfortable' with. Other males he admire.

His mistake is thinking that any other male early on was ever confident with females at a young age. All males go through the frustrating and awkward period of trial and error, and rejection before he gained his confidence in dealing with the opposite sex.

It all starts with masturbation..
However, if the male gives up too quickly, and with is hormones raging, any amount of nakedness or physical contact will be seen as sexual. School showers often times are the catalyst for many adolescent boys obsession with masturbating to those 'admired' and desired body parts he wished he had of those other more confident males. And through his consistent masturbation, he creates a 'manual' sexual bond with the other male body parts or characteristic, that must be maintained with consistent masturbation.

Understand, that for this male, it's never going to be about the male or individual. Only the characteristics or body parts that he admires or 'wishes' he had for himself. This is why his countless attempts at boyfriends and 'relationships' fail so consistently. The characteristics or body parts he desires are very rarely ever looking for his characteristics or body parts.

Even though he remembers back when he 'used' to be sexually attracted to females, he is confident that his sexual attraction for males is stronger, so he 'must' be gay.

Overshadowed natural sexual attraction:
But what he doesn't realize is that his consistent masturbation to those admired characteristics and body parts of other males, is what begins to overshadow his natural sexual attraction for females. The result is that he is sure that he still sees females as 'attractive' but he is not 'sexually' attracted to them.

Also, due to his exaggerated manual sexual bond with other male characteristics and body parts, the females that he is attracted to must be exaggerated in femininity also.

Exaggerated Femininity:
This is why so many 'gay' males are obsessed with female actresses and singers who are 'over the top' with glamor and femininity. From Diana Ross to Madonna, or really any female who in costume and performance, presents an 'exaggerated' expression of femininity, these males will find themselves obsessed or highly attracted to them, but they won't attach sexuality to the attraction.

This is because their natural sexual attraction for females is being overshadowed or covered up, by his manual sexual 'bond' he continues to create by masturbating to male characteristics and body parts that he 'wishes' were his own. But he is still attracted, but does not quite understand why.

And for most of these males, it all started with either being afraid of females and what he is supposed to do, or being rejected as a young boy by females, and that rejection mentally scared him to the point where he never wanted to go through that rejection again.

The Result:
So what does he choose to do...he hides under the gay umbrella, continuing to masturbate to the male characteristics or body parts of males he wishes were his, but can never be. He spends countless hours in gyms all over the country trying desperately to obtain the body parts of another male he admires from a magazine, movie, TV show, in public or in the gym itself.

Or he goes the opposite route, and tries to simulate a female in the attempt to attract the more masculine males that are naturally attracted to female. The sad part about this concept is that if the male was actively sexually attracted to females, he would seek the actual female.

It's all about marketing:
Marketing professionals know this is happening, so they market heavily to this group of 'gay' males, offering them gym memberships, weight gain pills, powders and liquids, sexual enhancement drugs and machines, exercise machines to use at home and lots and lots of porn so that the 'gay' male has a steady stream of body parts to admire and desire for himself, which keeps him coming back for more.

Don't think this is about you?
Well, just try and be honest and ask yourself a few questions:

1. Did you used to be attracted to females, but you just feel more attracted to males?

2. Did you never have sex with a female but have masturbated with another male, so that must mean you are 'gay'?

3. You know you are sexually attracted to females and males, but you choose to masturbate with males because it wouldn't be fair to the female?

4. Did you just give up and decide that 'gay' was who you were, so you never have to admit being afraid of females or rejected by them?

5. Do you really feel that you are 'rejecting' other people that choose to 'be' gay, because you are trying to understand who you really are?

6. Could it be that fear is what has you trying to 'be' gay in the first place?

7. Is masturbating to other male characteristics and body parts, or trying to simulate sexual intercourse or a 'relationship' really working out for you?

Take the Challenge:
It's just you and a computer screen. So you don't have to lie to yourself anymore. So give yourself a chance to at least try and understand what happened. Take the 10 Day Sex Detox Challenge. Go for 10 days without the gym, porn of any type, fitness magazines, gay friends, masturbation, sex buddies, gay clubs, gay events, etc.

Go for 10 days, keep a journal of how you feel about yourself, your current lifestyle, your current future and notice how your perceptions begin to change as you make it past the 5th day. You will get bored, since you have spent so much time working at being gay. But this is a great time to figure out what your real hobbies and interests are and participate in them.

This is not rocket science. I actually takes effort to maintain a manual sexual 'bond', so when you stop working at it, things naturally fall back into place.

Give yourself a chance.

It's a New Day! Expand your Mind in 2009!