Admiration Confused with Sexual Attraction

You would be surprised at how so many males confuse a sexual attraction with 'Admiration', and this normal admiration becomes why he ends up choosing to be DL, Bi-Sexual, or Gay.

The funny thing about this is that these males were never born bisexual in the first place. They never started out with a sexual attraction for other males, but it was 'learned'.

I am sure you are thinking, 'now how can a person learn to be sexually attracted to another male.?'

Well, it's easier than you would think:

Let's go back in time a bit. As a young boy, there are always other boys around you. In most cases these other boys might be older, bigger, stronger or more confident than you were as a younger boy. Guess what, these are the boys you begin to 'admire', and want to be like based on their attributes.

Not sure about this? Well, try to think about a male who is less masculine, less muscular or stronger, or less confident than yourself.....and honestly ask yourself if you 'admire' that male or want to be like that male? Than answer is consistently no.

Why, because males tend to want the bigger, stronger, faster, taller, more powerful/confident and more popular of everything. From cars, to stereos, flat panel televisions, homes, clothes, jewelery, etc.

This included attributes of another male. Why do you think there are millions of males in gyms spending up to 8 hours a week lifting weights, trying to obtain the arms, chest, back, legs, neck, forearms, calves, butt, or biceps of another male who just happens to have a larger, stronger, more masculine looking version of any of those body parts?

Just look at your own situation. Who are the males you 'feel' attracted to? Why do you go to the gym on a regular basis? Remember, FIT is a word that was created just to justify the obsession with wanting another males body parts. So don't confuse yourself any longer thinking the days and hours you spend in a gym is tied to your health.

It's all about seeking a body image you 'admire' of someone else. And even if you don't spend hours in a gym, just think of the males that you 'admire'. Are they masculine, more muscular/fit/athletic, do they look strong, are they confident??

So how did you begin to confuse basic admiration with a sexual attraction?

This creeps up on so many males in adolescence so innocently, that they don't even realize it's happening. It could be due to the fact that parents are so afraid to talk about sex with their children, that their children create habits all on their own which impact them for a lifetime.

For males, it all starts with masturbation.
Masturbation is a very powerful 'bonding' tool. Whatever he focus' on while masturbating and feeling the intense pleasure of organism, will be 'bonded' with that intense pleasure.

It's funny, but this is why so many guys have fetishes for feet, legs, hands, penis, forearms, and most any body part of their own visible while masturbating and having an orgasm.

Just think about it...the foot fetish is always about the top of the foot. The hand fetish about the top of the hand, the flexed forearm, the flexed muscles of the thigh, and the erect penis.

But for these males, it's all manual. If they stopped masturbating to mental images of other male body parts they admire, or while looking at their own body parts, but focused on mental images of females who they desire, the manual sexual 'bond' with those 'admired' male body parts would continue to decrease and be replaced by his own natural sexual desire for females over a very short period of time.

This is so simple, but so powerful at the same time. It's amazing how quickly manual sexual bonds are created and disconnected.

Next, if he would stop trying to obtain the body parts of another male in gyms that he admires, which only creates a never ending obsession with those body parts. When you think about it, the gym is like the cigarette to the smoker. You can't stop smoking if you keep carrying cigarettes around...you will eventually will smoke again.

The Gym/Fitness industry knows this very well. They know their demographics and understand that if they get the younger male around puberty to start working out in a gym, they have him for a lifetime.

Do you wonder why they let boys of age 14 on the gym floor??
Because at puberty when hormones are raging, and throwing him in a gym with male body parts that he 'admires' and wants for himself so badly, he will eventually begin to masturbate to those body parts. And before he knows it, he now feels 'naturally' attracted to other males.

The problem with most males is that they know so little about their own sexuality, and if they get an erection, it means they are sexually attracted to that thing or person, when it's more about a body part or characteristic of a person that is the cause of the attraction.

Test yourself....see if it's true for you

Try the 10 Day Sex Detox Challenge.
- No Porn
- No Gym
- No Masturbation
- No Men's Workout Magazines
- No Gay Web/Sex Sites
- No Hooking up with your male sex buddies
- No Gay Clubs/bars/events
- Avoid Your Committed Gay Friends

What you will notice during that 10 day period is that your 'natural' male sexual attraction for females will get stronger, as your 'manual' attraction for other male body parts begin to weaken. And if MUST masturbate 'after' the 10 day detox, then ONLY masturbate to images of females you desire, and not even your own body parts.

Your Future:
What you will begin to realize is that your options for the future open up for you, because you are no longer driven by your manual body part/image obsession with other males. And now you can truly begin to 'be' who you really are, and not who you masturbated yourself into.

And your options for a mate can now be based on the person, and not who who you 'wished' you were, or a desire body part or greater level of masculinity than your own.