Homophobia or Gayphobia?

I find it funny how in order to belong to the gay group, you must 'redefine' common terms and force yourself to reject the actual definition of the words.

Homophobia or the concept of a person being homophobic is an example. Understanding that a phobia is a 'fear' of something, and homo is the genus that includes human beings. This would mean a person would have a fear of humans. That makes no sense. Many use the term with the 'intent' that someone is 'anti-gay', but the term used has nothing to do with being 'anti-gay', but a fear of humans.

Now 'gayphobia or gayphobic' makes more sense. Since the terms would be relating to a person having a fear of gay people. But that really does not work either, since our society does not 'fear' many members of the gay group, but reject the marketed sex based lifestyle and activity.

So it seems that 'Anti-Gay' is the more accurate term to describe members of our society, who reject those who 'choose' to belong to the group/brand that promotes a lifestyle based on sex and sexual activity. Even though there are millions of respected men and women who are attracted to the same gender, who do not represent the negative image of the gay brand.