What's DL Really All About?

The term DL or Down Low is nothing new. This well marketed term is just another way of saying 'Bi-Sexual'.

Being bi-sexual is not a race based concept, but only a Biologically Mentally Intersex/Bisexual issue.

The challenge for the bisexual/intersex male is that when he tries to maintain a relationship with a female, his female aspect sabotages himself due to her 'natural' attraction for other males.

He really has two options:
1. Date women or marry a women, and deal with the guilt of cheating on her with other males to meet the needs of his female aspect, while putting her health at risk of sexually transmitted diseases.

2. Let his female aspect take over, and live an unhappy life alone masturbating with other males, when he all along, he really wants to be with women.

Many choose a variation on both options, sometimes dating women, and sometimes having sex with other males...but the vast majority end up unhappy and alone.

Now the concept of the Bisexual/Intersex male is frustrating for many intersex/gay males. This is because these masculine males who are able to attract women, are exactly the males that their female aspect is 'naturally' attracted to.

This is the same concept at work, with the more desperate intersex males who offer themselves to be used for a sexual outlet to married men. Fully understanding that the married male will only use him for a sexual release, so he can go back to his wife that he loves.

And by these bisexual males having the 'natural' attraction for both genders, and not 'choosing' to commit to 'being gay' or reject his male aspect to have sex only with males, resentment tends to build within the committed 'gay' males.

Many 'gay' males think that 'everything' would be so much better for all 'gay' people, if all males who were naturally attracted to males and females, just choose to be 'gay'. That they would be accepted by our society, if only the masculine males would tell everyone they are gay too. But that's not never going to happen.

Why: Because the bisexual/intersex male is 'naturally' attracted to both genders to a certain degree that only he knows, and who he 'allows' himself to love or have sex with is the 'choice' of that individual. Just like it's a 'choice' who anyone else 'allows' themselves to love or have sex with.

Let me repeat myself: Just like it's a 'choice' who anyone else 'allows' themselves to love or have sex with.

So the obsession around DL males for the female aspect of the intersex male, is like one reaching for an apple that will always be out of reach. DL or bisexual males are not your problem, it's your life choices and who you 'choose' to be that has the biggest impact on your life.

'DL' Biologically Intersex/bisexual males are not your enemy, they are either lower level intersex, or have not let their female aspect control their male aspect like some males have.

It's all about choices....maybe it's time you thought about yours...