So You Just Want To Be Tolerated?

Have you noticed that what goes hand in hand with the gay groups very strong rejection to the concept of 'judgement' of others behavior, is that they also must settle for only being 'tolerated' by the rest of our society, and even members of the gay groups/community, but never even ask to be respected.

There are a few primary reasons why this may be:
When you think about the many beliefs and sex based activities that a person must adopt and participate in to justify living a stereotypical gay 'lifestyle', even other 'gay' people find it difficult to respect one another. So it's really pointless to ask the rest of society outside the gay 'community' to provide any more than a tolerance for the chosen lifestyle. Remember, it's not about the people, but about their chosen actions.

The whole concept of 'non-judgement' seems to be clearly connected to an attempt to justify a lifestyle based on non-productive and overt, promiscuous sexual behavior.

Not all BiologicallyIntersex/bisexual or gay males and females have chosen to create a lifestyle based on sex and sexuality. However, the vast majority has and they tend to represent all Intersex/gay people in the media, and in the eyes and minds of the general public.

The reality is that the promiscuous sexual behavior erodes even the gay 'community' from it's core. With the idea of 'accepting' another persons efforts to have overt promiscuous sex with other intersex/gay males or females, who are in relationships or married, little do they know, that their relationship will be targeted next by another promiscuous Intersex/gay person.

Many try to blame our societies rejection of their behavior on religious beliefs. But that's far from the truth. Being rejected as a whore or prostitute has never been the sole domain of religion. Even animals in the wild that mate in pairs, don't allow sexual promiscuity, it's only the pack animals that breed with random females to populate the pack. However, with promiscuous intersex/gay men and women, there is no desire or ability to naturally create offspring, so even the pack concept is not justified.

But based on the 'non-judgement' concept of the gay community or gay groups, this is acceptable and promoted behavior. The only option for Intersex/gay men and women to deal with 'accepted' sexual promiscuity, is to adopt 'open' relationships.

'Open' relationships have become quite populate. More with male same sex relationships than with females. This way the restriction cheating or having promiscuous sex with anyone you want, even if you are 'supposed' to be in a committed relationship with another person, is OK.

But the cost to their partner is great. The mental issues of lowered self esteem, lack of confidence and self worth in themselves, and feeling they are being pulled into a lifestyle that they never expected to participate in. So his 'options' are to (1)go along with the concept of an 'open' relationship, (2)reject it and know that his partner will be cheating on him anyway, (3)or break up with his partner, knowing his chances for finding anyone else that he would want a relationship with, and who is willing to commit to a monogamous 'relationship' with him is very slim. And the older he becomes, the slimmer his chances become. The more desperate he becomes. The more he is able to 'justify' to avoid being alone.

Now really think about this issue and where the problem began.
Could it be that the failure of many same sex relationships is not because neither party wants their relationship to fail, or is unable to commit to one another. But it may be because the 'gay groups/community' promotes, accepts and encourages intersex/gay men and women to be sexually promiscuous.

Through the consistent rejection of the concept of one Intersex/gay person placing judgment against very basic negative and socially immoral behavior that violates their own core beliefs. Behavior that is guaranteed to come back and impact their own life in a negative way.

The long term result for either person is a loss of one self. By letting go of his own basic morals and values and the ability to earn respect of himself and of others in his society, all to accommodate another. He ends up participating in activity he finds difficult to acknowledge, or admit even to himself, because if he did, he would have to figure out a way to forgive himself, and rebuild his moral foundation, his self worth, his values, his self respect, and his life. But he can't do that while still hiding under the gay umbrella.

So maybe it's time to speak your mind about what you believe as an individual, and not try to hard to fit into the collective gay groups/community. OR.... do you fear placing judgment on the promiscuous behavior of others, because you are doing the exact same thing???