Why Restrict Love?

Could it be that so many men and women suffer from so much loneliness, rejection and failed relationship attempts, due to the fact that he or she is choosing to restrict 'who' they are able to love based strictly on gender identity or on physical gender?

Just maybe the idea of a 'commitment' to 'being gay' or to only one gender, instead of the 'commitment' being with an actual 'person' you love and who has the ability to love you in return, is more of the issue?

What may be the issue is that for so long, people were told that if they were attracted to someone of the same gender, then they need to join the gay group or go hide under the gay umbrella. Unfortunately this only creates more issues for that person, because end up with a group all suffering from similar or worse problems, all looking for a solution in another person.

Unfortunately the box many people are in, is that they have modified their bodies or lifestyles to meet the 'stereotype' of what it is 'supposed' to mean to be gay. So many trying to be 'themselves' or expressing themselves as 'individuals, but they all end up looking the same stereotype. Never realizing that once you feel the need to 'be' an individual, you just lost who you really are and are now trying to be someone else's concept.

So what if you took a step back and re-evaluated your options? Asked yourself has the whole 'gay' lifestyle concept really worked out for you? Have you already cycled through all the 'gay people that you know? Are you recycling now? As many gay people do, many begin to travel across the country hoping to meet that 'one' gay male or female elsewhere. So much wasted effort when the 'person' or the 'one', may be where they are, but self imposed restrictions on gender identity and physical gender create a roadblock.

So ask yourself....Why are you restricting 'who' you are able to love, when you have so much love to give?