What Does It Mean To Be Gay?

Gay people will tell you that 'being gay' is not just about sex, but when you ask them what does it mean to be gay, the first thing they say has to do with sex and sexuality

- Some say you are 'gay' if you want to have sex with someone of the same gender.

- Others say you are not gay unless you have had sex with someone of the same gender.

- Some say you not gay unless you have had sex with someone of the same gender.

- Others say you are not 'gay' unless you only want to have sex with the same gender.

- Some say you are gay even if you have sex with both genders.

- Women who are attracted to the same sex consider themselves Lesbians. So would they be Gay Lesbians? Is there a non-gay Lesbian?

So here is the deal. Not one of the people asked stated they were 'gay' because the person they love is the same gender. However, people in lasting partnerships thought less about themselves 'being gay' but more about 'being in love' with the person that they loved.

So does this mean that the concept of 'being gay' and who you love have nothing in common? Is carrying the 'gay card' only useful as a justification for sexual activity until he or she meets his or her soul mate?

Test out this theory. Ask a 'gay' person who they are, and the first or second descriptive of themselves, will be sex or sexuality. Then ask the same person to describe him or herself without telling you about who they want to have sex with. It's gonna be a challenge.



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