Why Base Your Life On An Already Failed Plan?

Could it be that many gay or Biologically Intersex/bisexual males justify their sexual promiscuity by mirroring bad life choices of those who are not gay/intersex?

It seems consistent that when gay/intersex males are challenged about overt sexuality and promiscuity, their response is tied to overt and promiscuous non-gay/intersex males.

It's clear that the #1 cause of failure in male/female relationships and marriage is money. The strong second is infidelity. It's unquestionable that once a person looses 'trust' in another person, they can no longer maintain a 'trusting' relationship with that person.

However, this consistent relationship failure based on infidelity or the failure to maintain monogamous between males and females, seems to be the 'basis' or justification for the lifestyle 'choice' of many gay/intersex males and their attempt at a relationship.

Many try to see sex as 'fun' in an attempt to push their promiscuity and infidelity into the 'entertainment' bucket, trying to disconnect the 'behavior' from the committed relationship he desires with another male.

Even when he is able to refrain from promiscuous behavior for a short while, and is able to enter a relationship with another male, he is simply not able to maintain that monogamous relationship. Many males are pushed into an 'open' relationship by their chosen mate, in an effort to maintain their 'idea' of a relationship, while his mate continues to have sex with other males.

Sadly, the justification consistently falls back to the promiscuous behavior of non-gay/intersex males, who are not able to obtain and manage a trusting monogamous relationship or those married males who cheat or where in failed relationships with women.

Many try and use the concept that relationships are 'different' and that their definition of relationship which allows sex outside the relationship works for them. However, the reality is that the one being cheated on, and who allows that to happen, must choose to lose more and more of his self respect, knowing that he is 'allowing' his mate to openly cheat on him. This is not something he tells his friends or is proud of. Because being cheated on only bring shame on a individual, no matter what gender the other person is, and especially if they allow it to continue.

Another reality is that the cheating tends to be 'test drives' for a replacement, since who he choose to mate with, is really not who he wants to be with. Which is very clear by his partner's continued search for another person to mate with.

Why is this happening? What could it be that causes many gay or Biologically Intersex/bisexual males to put themselves on a path of guaranteed failure, when at the same time, are desperately looking for a trusting and lasting relationship? Could the one being cheated on let this happen to them because they know the chances of them ever finding another male to enter a 'relationship' with in the future is not that good?

Would you 'allow' this to happen to you? Are you allowing this to happen to you? If so.....why?