Instead of Porn and Masturbating...

So many guys who are participating in the "10 Day Sex Detox Challenge" have asked me what they are supposed to do with their time, if they can't go to the gym, can't look at porn or surf the net for hours looking at porn sites and sex chat websites.

Most males lost under the gay umbrella for their entire adult lives have never stopped to ask themselves what they want out of life.

They simply attached the restrictions on their lives that came with the gay lifestyle. There were never real options......only limitations.

What I suggest is that this is the time to finally get to know who they really are.

- Learn what your born talents and abilities are and foster them.

- Learn how to play a sport you never had time to play, or were afraid to try.

- Read books or take a cooking class and really learn how to cook.

- Host dinner parties to share your cooking skills with your friends.

- Join a book club to help you read books on various topics, and meet new people not based on gender.

- Learn a new language and maybe you can be fluent in a second language.

- Learn to ask questions and seek out knowledge every day. The web has a wealth of information not related to porn.

- Don't be afraid to take an interior decorating class to train your natural talent and offer a potential career.

- Start painting or take a painting class to express yourself visually.

- Write music and lyrics that you feel mean something to you.

- Learn to balance your mind and body through meditation, yoga or other martial arts

- Learn public speaking by joining Toastmasters or any other group that helps you grow your communication skills.

- Learn to write or take a writing class to develop your creative writing skills.

- Go back to school and obtain that diploma, certification or degree you have always wanted.

- Volunteer to help those in need in your community.

These are just a few suggestions to get you started. But what's most important is for you to begin to envision a future for yourself, that does not restrict your potential by sexuality, but expands your potential by the skills and abilities that may be within you, due to your duality of gender.

All around you in the world, artists, designers, health professionals, educators, counselors, architects, engineers, legal professionals and business owners and many more careers are lead by bisexual men and women. These individuals have been able to avoid the oppression that an obsession with sexuality and body image has on many bisexual males that choose a gay lifestyle.

Use your "10 Day Sex Detox Challenge" to explore your inner self, and find who you really are, and what hidden talents you were born with, that have laid dormant for so many years.

It's time to begin your life and create a new future, one day at a time!