10 Day Sex Detox Challenge....

Time and time again, when I ask someone who is looking for sex with another male, his primary reason is that he was bored.

But for most Intersex males, his obsession for more masculine males and obsession for other male body images he wished was is own, is exaggerated by HABIT.

People create habits for many of their actions, and being unaware of the very simple habit forming process it's easy to think 'it's just me', or 'it is what it is', or 'it's what I have always done', or 'so what?'.

Habits that start out a complete 'choice' like smoking, drinking, or looking at male porn you purchase or on line, buying male exercise magazines, spending hours on line every day at gay sex sites looking at a never ending stream of free male porn.

Habits are easy to start and can be very difficult to break. Why? Not only do you begin to feel it's 'who you are', but the 'Pavlov's Dog' concept comes into play, where there is a reward of pleasure attached to the habitual action that keeps you coming back.

You don't come back for the initial action, but for the pleasure, whether it's:
- The high from smoking whatever it is you smoke: No one likes the toxic smoke that gets in their clothes, hair, skin, lungs or even the ridicule and rejection from society, but to them the pleasure is worth it.

- The relaxation from drinking whatever you choose to drink: It takes quite a bit of convincing ourselves that the toxic liquids taste good, with most needing to mix with other strong flavors, just so we can drink them. But even the ridicule and rejection from society is not as powerful as the outcome of pleasure which overshadows societies ridicule.

- The masturbating to naked male body's or body parts you wished were your own: Once the intersex male starts to masturbate and orgasm to body images of male body's and body parts, his sexual intense pleasure of orgasm becomes attached to those male images. No matter how much social reticule or rejection from our society there is, it's never going to be as powerful as the sexual pleasure he receives from orgasm.


For a majority of the males who feel obsessed with the more masculine or more muscular body image of another male, is that he is just proving the basic Pavlov's dog experiment, over and over again.

The Study:
Recently 12 Intersex males took part in a very simple and voluntary 10 day study, to validate the Pavlov's Dog theory as it relates to their obsession with sexual activity with a more masculine male or more muscular body image.

1. The males were asked Stop watching any type of pornographic material, whether it's a DVD, on line or pornographic pictures on your PC. Put them out of sight.

2. No masturbating for the 10 day period.

3. Log off of gay and straight sex websites for the duration of the study. Clear out your browser history, etc.

4. Remove the pictures of naked male bodies from the walls of your room, home, apartment and from your PC backgrounds and screen savers.

5. Stay away from the gym which feeds into his body image obsession.

6. Put away and do not read or look at any fitness, weight lifting or body building magazines.

7. Take a 10 day break from your sex buddies, plan on spending time alone, with other friends or meeting new non-gay people.

8. Stay away from gay clubs, bars and hangouts.

9. Put away your dance club music for the duration of the study.

10. Check your appearance to see if you have altered it to ''fit in' with your 'gay' friends or the stereotype (multi color hair, earnings, makeup, alternate clothing).


The results from the 10 day study are as follows:

- 10 of the 12 males found that their previous focus on sex and porn and trying to live a 'gay' lifestyle, took alot of effort.

- By not spending so much time living with gay porn in so many ways, the 10 day study was like a detox.

- While not masturbating was difficult for the first 3 days, after that it was not really something they thought about.

- They were forced to really think about and participate in other interests they never had time for, not related to sex and the gay lifestyle.

- Many of the males struggled to find something else to do with their time, since porn, masturbation and sexual activity was what they did when they got bored.

- A few met other people, where they did not know if the person was 'gay' or not, but because they had the same non-sexual interest.

- They started to think about the idea of relationships with other males or females, actually not being based on sexual activity.

- They started to feel much better about themselves, more optimistic about life and their future

However, two didn't make it through the study, as they did not have the strength fight their own sex addiction to porn, and dropped out of the study after only 3 days.

The Conclusion:
What this study tells us is that just because a male is born with a level of the Intersex condition,
that does not mean he must be obsessed with sex and sexuality. It proves that the Pavlov's Dog theory of habit and reward, is playing itself out in a very definite way in the lives of many Intersex males, who feel little control over their 'obsession' and 'strong' sexual attraction to males who are more masculine or who has a muscular body or body parts he wishes he had for himself. And they are only doing it to themselves.

So here is your challenge. Try the experiment on your own for 10 days. Now, anyone should be able to follow the 10 restrictions avoiding porn in all forms and not masturbating for only 10 days.

A suggestion is to keep a diary of your experiences, so you can see how important sex and sexual activity is for you and your 'identity' now, and how you feel in only 10 days.

Give it a try. Let Tomorrow Be Day 1